go out with beautiful younger colleague who you adore and who wants to talk about everything and nothing and gets that you are weird and strange and wonderful.

talk too much about your husband and fantastic relationship you didn't think could ever exist your entire life until now.

have great buzzy conversations all night.

know that your husband is waiting for you, because you've had a shit time recently and you have a bad cold, and you are super tired and feeling generally crap, to tuck you into bed when you get home. and not scold you for staying out. or for having a couple of beers. and to tell you that you are amazing and the most wonderful thing he has ever seen.

it's not that hard.

it's really lovely, if you actually want it.